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Twin Flames -what are they?


Many things have been written about the idea of twin flames.  The concept has drawn much controversy and criticism.
However, at the very core of our nature and on a deep personal level, every person has and/or will sense that magnetic pull towards an individual.
The one the for no known reason, we feel an almost magnetic pull toward, we connect with them on a very deep level.
They fill our thoughts and consciously or not, affect the actions we take.   We are drawn to them like a moth to the flame.
It is believed that at one time twin flames were one soul and at a certain time split into two and went their separate ways to gather new information and experiences.  It was to allow them to grow through different lives.  Sometime this was an agreement to guarantee they would reconnect in another life.
Even though it was so each could grow, each one searched for the other (usually without knowing) with whom to share these experiences.
This unfulfilled desire made the two souls desperately look for each other through every ascension of their lives.  
Sometime they met in an incarnation, while in others they keep seeking, always with just a little something missing.  The fragmented soul does not become complete unit it finds the other. 
Although two souls can and do live happily side by side, the togetherness of the split soul or twin flame brings something far greater.
It is believed we have only one twin soul with whom we keep sharing encounters in subsequent lives, until the full journey of human experience is completed.  Sometime the universe brings them together while sometime it keeps them apart but each union brings a higher high.
The “meeting” in this lifetime, when you meet your twin flame for the first time is a connection you make instantly without question.  It is a recognition so accurate that you do not question it.  Many things and events have brought you to this point so the moment you meet your twin flame your heart opens quickly to merge into a unified energy.  And as the two of you merge, the outside world disappears and an unforgettable bond is made.  You shall search for it years.

Although this is an unbelievable chemistry, it does not necessarily mean the two of you are ready for an immediate romance in this time frame. Hang ups and conditioning from the past lives may make the conscious mind guard itself from vulnerability.   It may take some cleansing to remove the effects of the residual from other lives.  Without the work one or both tries to fit the other into the old love patterns, and it can move from a blazing chemistry into a mellow courtship and finally an uninspiring relationship.   

When it is right, there is a sense of completeness that is beyond description and the twin flames come closer and closer with each experience shared with one another.  They learn more about themselves than they would from another person,  This is the sign of having found your twin flame and can only be felt once the twins reach the stage of harmony with each other.  Again it takes work.
Twin flames can be of the same sex, they may share a huge age difference and they will meet under the strangest of circumstances.  But they will fit together.
Soulmate and twin flame are often confused with each other.  The one difference is a soulmates have agreed to reincarnate to help each other learn from each other and to act as guides,  This pattern can continue or it can end in one lifetime,  There are usually more than one.  However, thee exists only one twin flame for you in your entire journey of human existences.
“Only this one soul is going to be your vice and you, it’s versa”
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FUN FOLKLORE white flowers—

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Fun Folklore


If you wish to have good fortune in the coming month

 Tis said, on the day of the new moon put some white flowers in a vase of silver or glass and stand them in a window where the moonlight can shine on them.

They will not only be good to look at, but will attract the beneficial influence of the moon and if you have grown the flowers yourself, all the better as your love and energy are placed on them.

The new moon is from dark to full.


Tis also said

When sitting around the fireplace==

Two nuts are named, each for a potential lover, and put on a grate in the fire. She who wants to know the future watches and waits. If a nut burns true and steady, it indicates the lover will have a faithful nature; if it pops in the heat, it indicates the man is not to be trusted.


Just a bit of Fun Folk Lore

Negative energy- relationships

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Negative energy continues to live and breathe daily in all walks of life.

It is hard to get away from however, we can choose to absorb it or release it.  Clear ourselves of it, breath deep and let it go.

Complaining, listening to complaints (not problems) anger, frustration, etc. only perpetuates the negative energy.  Dark cannot live in light.   And complaining about your relationship is a huge magnet for a negative virus.

This is true of relationship of all sorts, love work, children and complaining about ourselves.  Now we all know venting for a bit is natural so realize I am talking about the constant negativity where we are not looking for a solution but the “if only they would” , “I told him==”  “he just doesn’t get it”  do you?.

In a relationship one of the things we are prone to do is to complain about our mates to our friends, strangers, anyone that listens.  Do we feel this makes us look better?  Kind of a martyr?  If it is that bad==leave.

But many complaints are out of habit and sometime we even feel, humor.   It is natural but we need to learn when it is founded, fun, or perpetuating more unrest and unhappiness in the relationship itself.  Choosing a “negative” and giving it so much energy allows it to grow and fester.  And also when it is fear based.

How many  times do we ever sit and tell our friends over a glass of wine or coffee, all the good things about our partner?  Try it!  You will be amazed at how dumbfounded people will be but above all, you will be astounded at how many good things there are about them!!  And you.

If by chance not, then is it time to review the relationship.

One of the biggest causes of negative energy is fear.  Fear and negative energy grow in your thoughts and create an anger.    Anger is a result of a feeling–shame, fear, to name a few.  It is said–the higher the anger, the lower the self-esteem.     Are we belittling to try to make us seem better?  Do we not feel we deserve a good person?   Are we afraid we must answer up?  Our own lives should be filled with other things to talk about.

When we are in a relationship, it is important to remember to praise both to them and to others.  You will find it makes you feel better, it hopefully makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them.  I repeat, it makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them.  Not badger, complain, whine,  if there is an issue, address it as it comes and be done with it.   Start with “I”  ie –when this happens “I” feel yada yada.

Now I am not saying be a doormat, all relationship have problems.  And some just aren’t meant to be or continue.  But a relationship is work, respect, growth.  Not everyone is right for us but may be for someone else.  It is not winning or failing, it is about learning and loving.  Do not fear “not having” it breeds desperation, control, and do not fear giving a compliment without expecting one in return.  Truly “give” it.

Times have changed with all the social media , I am constantly told –I talked to someone on-line, is he the one? cause if not I do not want to waste my time…….gee I don’t know, sounds like you have already kicked off the “hello” expecting (with a fear of) it failing.   Doesn’t say much for your confidence.  Do you really want to start with the fear of failing? or look at it as a new opportunity?  Ask what can we do to enhance each others lives?

Let’s not set our partners and ourselves up to fail from the very beginning.  Let’s put little baby steps in front of both of us to step up to.  Little goals to work on along the way, not let it build because of our fear to speak.   Or sacrifice our self-esteem and feelings for fear of not having someone.   This builds resentment and anger and with that all the negativity breeds.


So for one day, whenever you talk about your person–say only the good things about them.  You will both feel better and the light will shine.




There is a movie called the “Time Traveler”  it is a father and son who can travel back in time.  At the end when the father is dying he tells the son the secret to a positive attitude—-live your day, then at night go back to morning and relive it with a different attitude, you can see how it changes all around you.”  Soon you will learn to not let little things bother you  or to look at them with a different attitude.–


As an exercise, with your partner——sit across from them holding hands,  do not talk.  Just look at each other for 3 to 5 min.  and think of all the things you liked about each other in the beginning.   The times you laughed the hardest.   Then when done write some of them down and read them to each other.  It is amazing what we forget when we get caught up in the everyday chaos of life.


To remove the fear of “not having” be it partner, money or chocolate

In the release cycle of the moon–full to new


Light a white candle and then a red candle and give it all your fear