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Be Still and Wait

 

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“When you are in doubt, be still, and wait;
when doubt no longer exists for you, then go forward with courage.
So long as mists envelop you, be still; be still until the sunlight
pours through and dispels the mists — as it surely will. Then act
with courage.” ~ Ponca Chief White Eagle

 

When we come to a stressful place in our lives, be it in a relationship, financial or family, the natural  thing is to react (or overreact as the case may be) and try to change the situation immediately.  This is based on the information we have at the moment, which is usually just a glimpse of the entire picture. We find ourselves saying “I don’t know what to do” ,  Well,this is the time to be still and wait!!

Do Nothing until we have all the information

Breakups and arguments are a prime example of this,  we get caught up in the heat of the moment and say things we should not.  Words that can never be taken back no matter how many times you say, I am sorry.

We burn up the phone or write scathing emails of all that you have done to me.

Waiting 24 hours for the dust to settle, emotions to calm and to review the situation will give a whole new prospective on how you perceive things and the reality of the situation.   Time to place the  real feelings where they truly belong.  Time to view it with both doors wide open to see the whole panorama of the situation.

Anger and frustration usually stem from another emotion, fear is one ie when your kids do something dangerous, fear that someone is leaving us, that we are not good enough, fear a situation will continue.  But the immediate overwhelming rush of adrenaline  blocks any logic.

Be still and wait

Often in 24 hours , it will resolve itself or at least look entirely different.

People often find that they are at a crossroads in life and feel depressed or stuck and want to do something even if it is wrong, just to make something happen.  Remember, “Don’t try to create movement because nothing is happening as you could create negative movement”   which  often leads to a more chaotic situation.  Try to give yourself time to view the entire situation from all sides.

In other words

Be still and wait!!

 

You may want to light a blue candle as this can have a calming effect on your mood or yellow with a twist of lemon to uplift the spirits.

 

Have a great and calm day

Twin Flames -what are they?

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Many things have been written about the idea of twin flames.  The concept has drawn much controversy and criticism.
However, at the very core of our nature and on a deep personal level, every person has and/or will sense that magnetic pull towards an individual.
The one the for no known reason, we feel an almost magnetic pull toward, we connect with them on a very deep level.
 
They fill our thoughts and consciously or not, affect the actions we take.   We are drawn to them like a moth to the flame.
 
It is believed that at one time twin flames were one soul and at a certain time split into two and went their separate ways to gather new information and experiences.  It was to allow them to grow through different lives.  Sometime this was an agreement to guarantee they would reconnect in another life.
 
Even though it was so each could grow, each one searched for the other (usually without knowing) with whom to share these experiences.
This unfulfilled desire made the two souls desperately look for each other through every ascension of their lives.  
 
Sometime they met in an incarnation, while in others they keep seeking, always with just a little something missing.  The fragmented soul does not become complete unit it finds the other. 
 
Although two souls can and do live happily side by side, the togetherness of the split soul or twin flame brings something far greater.
 
It is believed we have only one twin soul with whom we keep sharing encounters in subsequent lives, until the full journey of human experience is completed.  Sometime the universe brings them together while sometime it keeps them apart but each union brings a higher high.
 
The “meeting” in this lifetime, when you meet your twin flame for the first time is a connection you make instantly without question.  It is a recognition so accurate that you do not question it.  Many things and events have brought you to this point so the moment you meet your twin flame your heart opens quickly to merge into a unified energy.  And as the two of you merge, the outside world disappears and an unforgettable bond is made.  You shall search for it years.
 

Although this is an unbelievable chemistry, it does not necessarily mean the two of you are ready for an immediate romance in this time frame. Hang ups and conditioning from the past lives may make the conscious mind guard itself from vulnerability.   It may take some cleansing to remove the effects of the residual from other lives.  Without the work one or both tries to fit the other into the old love patterns, and it can move from a blazing chemistry into a mellow courtship and finally an uninspiring relationship.   

When it is right, there is a sense of completeness that is beyond description and the twin flames come closer and closer with each experience shared with one another.  They learn more about themselves than they would from another person,  This is the sign of having found your twin flame and can only be felt once the twins reach the stage of harmony with each other.  Again it takes work.
Twin flames can be of the same sex, they may share a huge age difference and they will meet under the strangest of circumstances.  But they will fit together.
Soulmate and twin flame are often confused with each other.  The one difference is a soulmates have agreed to reincarnate to help each other learn from each other and to act as guides,  This pattern can continue or it can end in one lifetime,  There are usually more than one.  However, thee exists only one twin flame for you in your entire journey of human existences.
“Only this one soul is going to be your vice and you, it’s versa”
Sandra can also be found at DsandrapsychicReadings.com

Negative energy- relationships

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Negative energy continues to live and breathe daily in all walks of life.

It is hard to get away from however, we can choose to absorb it or release it.  Clear ourselves of it, breath deep and let it go.

Complaining, listening to complaints (not problems) anger, frustration, etc. only perpetuates the negative energy.  Dark cannot live in light.   And complaining about your relationship is a huge magnet for a negative virus.

This is true of relationship of all sorts, love work, children and complaining about ourselves.  Now we all know venting for a bit is natural so realize I am talking about the constant negativity where we are not looking for a solution but the “if only they would” , “I told him==”  “he just doesn’t get it”  do you?.

In a relationship one of the things we are prone to do is to complain about our mates to our friends, strangers, anyone that listens.  Do we feel this makes us look better?  Kind of a martyr?  If it is that bad==leave.

But many complaints are out of habit and sometime we even feel, humor.   It is natural but we need to learn when it is founded, fun, or perpetuating more unrest and unhappiness in the relationship itself.  Choosing a “negative” and giving it so much energy allows it to grow and fester.  And also when it is fear based.

How many  times do we ever sit and tell our friends over a glass of wine or coffee, all the good things about our partner?  Try it!  You will be amazed at how dumbfounded people will be but above all, you will be astounded at how many good things there are about them!!  And you.

If by chance not, then is it time to review the relationship.

One of the biggest causes of negative energy is fear.  Fear and negative energy grow in your thoughts and create an anger.    Anger is a result of a feeling–shame, fear, to name a few.  It is said–the higher the anger, the lower the self-esteem.     Are we belittling to try to make us seem better?  Do we not feel we deserve a good person?   Are we afraid we must answer up?  Our own lives should be filled with other things to talk about.

When we are in a relationship, it is important to remember to praise both to them and to others.  You will find it makes you feel better, it hopefully makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them.  I repeat, it makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them.  Not badger, complain, whine,  if there is an issue, address it as it comes and be done with it.   Start with “I”  ie –when this happens “I” feel yada yada.

Now I am not saying be a doormat, all relationship have problems.  And some just aren’t meant to be or continue.  But a relationship is work, respect, growth.  Not everyone is right for us but may be for someone else.  It is not winning or failing, it is about learning and loving.  Do not fear “not having” it breeds desperation, control, and do not fear giving a compliment without expecting one in return.  Truly “give” it.

Times have changed with all the social media , I am constantly told –I talked to someone on-line, is he the one? cause if not I do not want to waste my time…….gee I don’t know, sounds like you have already kicked off the “hello” expecting (with a fear of) it failing.   Doesn’t say much for your confidence.  Do you really want to start with the fear of failing? or look at it as a new opportunity?  Ask what can we do to enhance each others lives?

Let’s not set our partners and ourselves up to fail from the very beginning.  Let’s put little baby steps in front of both of us to step up to.  Little goals to work on along the way, not let it build because of our fear to speak.   Or sacrifice our self-esteem and feelings for fear of not having someone.   This builds resentment and anger and with that all the negativity breeds.

 

So for one day, whenever you talk about your person–say only the good things about them.  You will both feel better and the light will shine.

 

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There is a movie called the “Time Traveler”  it is a father and son who can travel back in time.  At the end when the father is dying he tells the son the secret to a positive attitude—-live your day, then at night go back to morning and relive it with a different attitude, you can see how it changes all around you.”  Soon you will learn to not let little things bother you  or to look at them with a different attitude.–

 

As an exercise, with your partner——sit across from them holding hands,  do not talk.  Just look at each other for 3 to 5 min.  and think of all the things you liked about each other in the beginning.   The times you laughed the hardest.   Then when done write some of them down and read them to each other.  It is amazing what we forget when we get caught up in the everyday chaos of life.

 

To remove the fear of “not having” be it partner, money or chocolate

In the release cycle of the moon–full to new

 

Light a white candle and then a red candle and give it all your fear

 

RELATIONSHIPS: Sustaining and Maintaining

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It was recently said by someone– because of being so busy, they  did not have the energy to sustain the relationship.

The question posed was–Did they “want” to continue to see the person.  It was about the desire not the ability.
After a great deal of thought on the word, sustain – it seemed to me, the word should have been maintain as she was inquiring about  the desire not the ability.  This led me to the dictionary where I looked up the word “sustain” and then “maintain” and found it rather interesting.
According to the dictionary to Sustain is to–.
strengthen or support physically or mentally.
synonyms: comforthelpassistencouragesuccorsupport, give strength to,buoy up, carry, cheer up, hearten
for example-you sustain a charity through your donations that may fail otherwise–
Whereas to Maintain is to–1.
to cause or enable (a condition or state of affairs) to continue.
synonyms: preserveconservekeepretain, keep going, keep alive, keep up,prolongperpetuate
for example-you oil your wood furniture to maintain it
It also made me start to think about sustaining and maintaining a relationship when it is under stress or is at a stale mate because of various factors.   Or when it seems , there just isn’t time or energy.
Many times we find we have no interest or thought  for something at the moment, but it does not dampen our desire to continue it or to return to it.  We just do not have the energy to give to it at the moment  Perhaps it is taking care of children, parents or just good old work  overload.
This is especially true in relationships.  One partner becomes so involved in work for example that he cannot give to the relationship and the other partner feels as if things are ending,  That they are being shut out.
This is where it is important to know the difference between sustaining and maintaining  something we want to keep in our lives. We were not asking did you want the relationship to end, we were asking about did you desire to have it continue.
And with a little communication ie maintenance, many relationships can make it through the hard times.
Simple words go along way in letting a partner know this is a temporary situation.  That they just can’t focus at the moment but want it to be there in the future.
 First let them know-when it is back to normal, you will spend some time together.   Let them know, you want to maintain this but for right now you have no energy to sustain it but that it is temporary.   Tell them , I miss you/us.  And above all let them know you want them in your life and that you want it to continue and you appreciate their patience.
A few words here and there can Maintain a person for along time until you can put forth the energy again.
With a bit of thought, a strong relationship will not collapse from a lack of sustaining as long as you remember to do the maintaining until you can get to it again.
Love isn’t when  there is no stress nor problems in the relationship
Love is when the stress ends
Love is still there.

Soulmates, a reflection

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In a relationship, as in everything else, we get what we believe and ask for.  Actually what we feel we deserve!!

People in a relationship, be it soulmates, love relationship or friendship are always mirrors of each other in some way.

A relationship with another person is one of the most powerful tools we have for growth if we look at them realistically to see how

we have created them.

 

If you truly desire to have a deep fulfilling relationship, You have to believe it is possible.  You have to believe you deserve it, them and love.  And you have to treat you the way you want to be treated.  Be the best you, you can be.  (realize it is not that you do not deserve love but perhaps, this person is not reflecting the best you).

Below are some things you can do to help your relationship:

 

1. Look at your goals, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually

2. Take an honest (key word) look at what beliefs and attitudes you have about what is blocking YOU from having a deep relationship.  Write it down–the reason I can’t have a deep relationship or friendship with _______ is—–no no not what they do, what you do.

3. Use affirmations and visual images to change the “scene” into a positive, loving one,  Be willing to accept the good in you.

4. Use visualization to improve a difficult situation.  Talking together, taking turns listening.

If we put ourselves or our prospective partner in a box with a label with the way it should be, it can be very confining and limiting.

Human relationships are very complex.  They reflect our inner workings to help us to grow, it is not the partners job to heal or fix, only to reflect.

If  the relationship difficulties continue, it is a sign to look deeper into ourselves.

 

Sometime Insight from an outside person can help you to gain some clarity.

 

Remember  SOULMATES ARE MADE, NOT FOUND

Even if you feel you have found them, the relationship must be made.

Perhaps You are the soulmate you are looking for.

 

You deserve all there is, accept it

 

 

 

Psychic insight into Love, relationships to empower you to be the best YOU, can be

 

Soul Mates

We have many soul mates  This is caused usually by the splitting of a larger soul into sections. This makes the soul very recognizable and we feel “connected” to it as we are indeed part of it. We come back through many lives with the “other Part” of our soul ie soulmate to learn lessons through meetings and partings, you can say on some level we are all soul mates one with another, learning and growing.  Not all these lessons are loving or comforting.  Lessons in forgiveness and unconditional love are challenging.
Sometimes we are the “victim”, and sometimes we are the negative or mirror that shows another soul their light. This is where free will and choice comes into play, how we react or view our relationships. Someone can come into your life and cause you much pain and suffering because there is a soul agreement between you to grow and evolve in love and forgiveness.
This is one perception of karma and the “tit for tat” of the you did it to me Now I will do it to you that has gone on for lifetimes . You break the cycle by acting rather than reacting, by freeing the ego from the soul and learning to love and forgive. Mind you, this does not mean being stepped on as we must maintain some self respect but we may choose (if this is a negative karmic soulmate connection) to wish them well with love and release them.
Our greatest joy and our greatest pain are both conceived in these soul mate relationships, our feelings intensified by our soul connections, whether for good or bad. You can often spot a soul mate or karmic relationship by “love at first site” or “revulsion at first site”, depending upon the lessons you’ve contracted to learn from this soul.
One can live a lifetime in joy and harmony with a resonant soul mate, and this a beautiful, but rare gift.
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