Articles and quotes on relationships, soul mates, etc.
“When you are in doubt, be still, and wait;
when doubt no longer exists for you, then go forward with courage.
So long as mists envelop you, be still; be still until the sunlight
pours through and dispels the mists — as it surely will. Then act
with courage.” ~ Ponca Chief White Eagle
When we come to a stressful place in our lives, be it in a relationship, financial or family, the natural thing is to react (or overreact as the case may be) and try to change the situation immediately. This is based on the information we have at the moment, which is usually just a glimpse of the entire picture. We find ourselves saying “I don’t know what to do” , Well,this is the time to be still and wait!!
Do Nothing until we have all the information
Breakups and arguments are a prime example of this, we get caught up in the heat of the moment and say things we should not. Words that can never be taken back no matter how many times you say, I am sorry.
We burn up the phone or write scathing emails of all that you have done to me.
Waiting 24 hours for the dust to settle, emotions to calm and to review the situation will give a whole new prospective on how you perceive things and the reality of the situation. Time to place the real feelings where they truly belong. Time to view it with both doors wide open to see the whole panorama of the situation.
Anger and frustration usually stem from another emotion, fear is one ie when your kids do something dangerous, fear that someone is leaving us, that we are not good enough, fear a situation will continue. But the immediate overwhelming rush of adrenaline blocks any logic.
Be still and wait
Often in 24 hours , it will resolve itself or at least look entirely different.
People often find that they are at a crossroads in life and feel depressed or stuck and want to do something even if it is wrong, just to make something happen. Remember, “Don’t try to create movement because nothing is happening as you could create negative movement” which often leads to a more chaotic situation. Try to give yourself time to view the entire situation from all sides.
In other words
Be still and wait!!
You may want to light a blue candle as this can have a calming effect on your mood or yellow with a twist of lemon to uplift the spirits.
Have a great and calm day
Although this is an unbelievable chemistry, it does not necessarily mean the two of you are ready for an immediate romance in this time frame. Hang ups and conditioning from the past lives may make the conscious mind guard itself from vulnerability. It may take some cleansing to remove the effects of the residual from other lives. Without the work one or both tries to fit the other into the old love patterns, and it can move from a blazing chemistry into a mellow courtship and finally an uninspiring relationship.
Negative energy continues to live and breathe daily in all walks of life.
It is hard to get away from however, we can choose to absorb it or release it. Clear ourselves of it, breath deep and let it go.
Complaining, listening to complaints (not problems) anger, frustration, etc. only perpetuates the negative energy. Dark cannot live in light. And complaining about your relationship is a huge magnet for a negative virus.
This is true of relationship of all sorts, love work, children and complaining about ourselves. Now we all know venting for a bit is natural so realize I am talking about the constant negativity where we are not looking for a solution but the “if only they would” , “I told him==” “he just doesn’t get it” do you?.
In a relationship one of the things we are prone to do is to complain about our mates to our friends, strangers, anyone that listens. Do we feel this makes us look better? Kind of a martyr? If it is that bad==leave.
But many complaints are out of habit and sometime we even feel, humor. It is natural but we need to learn when it is founded, fun, or perpetuating more unrest and unhappiness in the relationship itself. Choosing a “negative” and giving it so much energy allows it to grow and fester. And also when it is fear based.
How many times do we ever sit and tell our friends over a glass of wine or coffee, all the good things about our partner? Try it! You will be amazed at how dumbfounded people will be but above all, you will be astounded at how many good things there are about them!! And you.
If by chance not, then is it time to review the relationship.
One of the biggest causes of negative energy is fear. Fear and negative energy grow in your thoughts and create an anger. Anger is a result of a feeling–shame, fear, to name a few. It is said–the higher the anger, the lower the self-esteem. Are we belittling to try to make us seem better? Do we not feel we deserve a good person? Are we afraid we must answer up? Our own lives should be filled with other things to talk about.
When we are in a relationship, it is important to remember to praise both to them and to others. You will find it makes you feel better, it hopefully makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them. I repeat, it makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them. Not badger, complain, whine, if there is an issue, address it as it comes and be done with it. Start with “I” ie –when this happens “I” feel yada yada.
Now I am not saying be a doormat, all relationship have problems. And some just aren’t meant to be or continue. But a relationship is work, respect, growth. Not everyone is right for us but may be for someone else. It is not winning or failing, it is about learning and loving. Do not fear “not having” it breeds desperation, control, and do not fear giving a compliment without expecting one in return. Truly “give” it.
Times have changed with all the social media , I am constantly told –I talked to someone on-line, is he the one? cause if not I do not want to waste my time…….gee I don’t know, sounds like you have already kicked off the “hello” expecting (with a fear of) it failing. Doesn’t say much for your confidence. Do you really want to start with the fear of failing? or look at it as a new opportunity? Ask what can we do to enhance each others lives?
Let’s not set our partners and ourselves up to fail from the very beginning. Let’s put little baby steps in front of both of us to step up to. Little goals to work on along the way, not let it build because of our fear to speak. Or sacrifice our self-esteem and feelings for fear of not having someone. This builds resentment and anger and with that all the negativity breeds.
So for one day, whenever you talk about your person–say only the good things about them. You will both feel better and the light will shine.
There is a movie called the “Time Traveler” it is a father and son who can travel back in time. At the end when the father is dying he tells the son the secret to a positive attitude—-live your day, then at night go back to morning and relive it with a different attitude, you can see how it changes all around you.” Soon you will learn to not let little things bother you or to look at them with a different attitude.–
As an exercise, with your partner——sit across from them holding hands, do not talk. Just look at each other for 3 to 5 min. and think of all the things you liked about each other in the beginning. The times you laughed the hardest. Then when done write some of them down and read them to each other. It is amazing what we forget when we get caught up in the everyday chaos of life.
To remove the fear of “not having” be it partner, money or chocolate
In the release cycle of the moon–full to new
Light a white candle and then a red candle and give it all your fear
It was recently said by someone– because of being so busy, they did not have the energy to sustain the relationship.
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In a relationship, as in everything else, we get what we believe and ask for. Actually what we feel we deserve!!
People in a relationship, be it soulmates, love relationship or friendship are always mirrors of each other in some way.
A relationship with another person is one of the most powerful tools we have for growth if we look at them realistically to see how
we have created them.
If you truly desire to have a deep fulfilling relationship, You have to believe it is possible. You have to believe you deserve it, them and love. And you have to treat you the way you want to be treated. Be the best you, you can be. (realize it is not that you do not deserve love but perhaps, this person is not reflecting the best you).
Below are some things you can do to help your relationship:
1. Look at your goals, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually
2. Take an honest (key word) look at what beliefs and attitudes you have about what is blocking YOU from having a deep relationship. Write it down–the reason I can’t have a deep relationship or friendship with _______ is—–no no not what they do, what you do.
3. Use affirmations and visual images to change the “scene” into a positive, loving one, Be willing to accept the good in you.
4. Use visualization to improve a difficult situation. Talking together, taking turns listening.
If we put ourselves or our prospective partner in a box with a label with the way it should be, it can be very confining and limiting.
Human relationships are very complex. They reflect our inner workings to help us to grow, it is not the partners job to heal or fix, only to reflect.
If the relationship difficulties continue, it is a sign to look deeper into ourselves.
Sometime Insight from an outside person can help you to gain some clarity.
Remember SOULMATES ARE MADE, NOT FOUND
Even if you feel you have found them, the relationship must be made.
Perhaps You are the soulmate you are looking for.
You deserve all there is, accept it
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