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New Moon Butterfly Ritual

new moon ritual

Butterfly Transformation

The new moon is always a time for new beginnings and a perfect time to perform a New Moon Butterfly Ritual.  This new moon on Sept. 20th, is right before the Autumn equinox.  A perfect time to make some transformations.  To spread your wings with a New Moon Butterfly Ritual and recognize yourself in all your beauty and wonder.  It is also the time the last of the Monarch butterflies make their long migratory journey to Mexico after all their transformations of the summer, so it seems a very appropriate time for this particular ritual.


For the new moon Butterfly Ritual, create a space to offer thanks to deceased family and other loved ones.  As it is a time of Harvest, decorate it with Autumn colors.  Use leaves, acorns and other symbols of fall and harvest.

Place a candle in the space you are using for your new moon Butterfly Ritual.  Think of using orange, brown, green and yellows, colors of the harvest.  White also represents transformation, cleansing and also finding your own inner light.

Call upon your ancestors to support and empower your transformation ritual with spiritual power and the blessings of other worlds.

Quiet your mind and reflect on things in your life you would like to change.  Honor and give thanks to those you have helped you grow both past and present.

Thank the universe for the lessons you have learned.

Now look forward into coming year and Picture yourself as you want to be in the next phase of your life, taking on a new shape , new values, goals and fulfilling your Divine purpose.  Stretching and Spreading your wings.  Breathing deeply.

Ask your future Self, “How will you have me change to be the best “me” I can be?”

Allow this time to be a free-flowing exchange between your now self and your future Self and all your past selves.

What does the present me need for transition into a Butterfly.

How shall I live my life as a Butterfly?  What can I do to spread my wings?  

What must I thank and leave in the past for my future Self to expand?

and Above all realize you are beautiful in all your stages!!!

Excerpt from the Butterfly Woman “The Self need not carry mountains to transform. A little is enough, a little goes a long way, and a little changes much.”

End your ritual with a prayer of thanks and don’t forget to thank yourself.


“I am loved and supported. I am beautiful through all my transitions that are allowing me to reach contentment in my life.”

After completing your Butterfly Transformation Ritual you may wish to write down your immediate feelings and thoughts to refer to as you continue your transformation.


A beautiful story available on c.d. or small book  to read is

La Mariposa~The Butterfly Woman  (found in Women who run with  Wolves) By Clarissa Pinkola Estes

or you may find La Mariposa in full here

La Mariposa, Butterfly Woman


Change your life? change the tune

play a different song

change life, change tune

All my life I heard my Granny say “stop sounding like a broken record, change your life change your tune”.  Being preteen and teen, I had no concept of what that meant.  It was much easier being caught in the drama of my own small world.
As we become older those “tunes” , songs, broken records begin to play automatically.  We seem to be program to think negative.  Our subconscious holds onto every negative word and criticism.  It seems I heard once we have about a 1000 neg. thoughts per min. compared to 10 positive in our subconscious.   So the key is to keep our mind busy with new songs until  we reprogram the old.
Changing the tune
Through consistent focused repetition and action with clear intentions (keyword-clear intentions) we can change the broken record so it does not continue to repeat over and over.  This includes the repeated patterns in finding relationships.  Often we just want someone for the sake of having someone because we have been programmed that is what we should do.  Never mind if they are singing the same song in harmony.
First and more than likely hardest, is relaxing the mind so you can hear the music.  A relaxed state of mind instantly
shows confidence to you subconscious mind and allows you to put in a new program.  Much like in a relationship, you staying relaxed and confident allows your partner to see you are clear on who you are.
Force never works!  All that does is cause tension and resistance in all areas but especially in your brain.  What does work is repetition, reprogramming, singing a different tune.
With repetition, your positive commands will become firmer, stronger and charged with a magnetic energy that acts in a positive way.  You know how you listen to a new song over and over?  Next thing you know, you automatically know the words without thinking.
Chanting your new tune and mantras has a powerful effect on the subconscious mind.
“change my life, change my tune”  I actually made up a song with things in it and sang it constantly (to the tune of Oh! Susanna) changing verses as needed.  I sang it loudly , in the car, at home and in my head while shopping.  It became a sort of positive game to make up the verses. And of course that also kept me focused on the positive, as well as laughing at myself for being silly.
Rhythmic and musical repetition of your affirmations has a soothing,  hypnotic effect on your subconscious mind. Your words will easily take root when chanted repetitively with musical rhythm.
Be aware of the subtle changes.  This helps you feel encouraged.  Your affirmations are working, as well as training your mind to look for and focus on what’s working in your life.
 Tis said , it takes 21 days to form a habit, it probably takes longer to break one.
Be open to seeing results come easily when you are not grasping and fighting but rather training your mind to see the positive that does work and release what does not.   This will allow you to create more of what does work.  And to hum a lovely tune that will change your life.  This is also true of putting more positive thought into a relationship.  So you may see, not only do you need to change your life by changing your tune, you need someone who is listening to the same type of music.
Remember it is not what happens in your life, but how you choose to respond to it that gives you your results.

May pole Dance


May Pole Dance

May Pole Dance

It is almost impossible to think of May Day without thinking of a May pole and a May pole dance.  Many of us did this as a child and remember the joy of  weaving in and out and watching the ribbons become shorter forming a braid around the pole at the end (hopefully).

It is one of the popular symbols of the season and represents not only the fact that Spring is in full swing but the divine marriage of the Lord and Lady of the Greenwood, making this a time for romance as well.

The pole represents the male and is usually cut from a fir tree whose branches have been stripped.  It is them raise upright with great flourish and much ado.

Whatever type of ribbons you use you will need an equal number and at least 2 separate colors, as this is for an equal number of males and females traditionally.  They will need to be about 2 times as long as the  May pole as the braiding takes up the length and at least 2 inches wide.  The ribbons are attached to the top of the pole and crowned with a circlet of flowers, preferably made the morning of May day from fresh flowers.

As for the dance itself, there are usually 8 dancers for each sabbat paired into couple but this has gone by the wayside as the old tradition of the May pole dance have.   It involves moving in a circle weaving in and out of the other dancers ie men would take one color on their left and women another color on their right, remember you will be going in opposite directions.  Men begin by weaving under the upheld ribbon of the first woman.  This is/was symbolic of the birth canal.  The dance continues until the May pole is wrapped with the ribbons, they are tied off and the wreath is dropped.

Many dancers wear bells and make their steps a skip or little jog, whatever the music dictates and to celebrate happiness.

If done right , your May pole should begin to look like the photo on the right!!

Good luck and have a happy May Day!!

May Pole Ribbons

May Pole Ribbons

FULL SNOW MOON Feb 21/22 2016


The Full Moon is in Virgo, it is called a Full Snow Moon as usually this is the moon when the snow in the deepest.

It was also called the Hunger Moon by American Indians as it was a time when the hunting was the most difficult.  The Cherokee called it Bone Moon as they found it was a time when the menu was chewing on bones or drinking bone marrow broth.

Who knew in 2016 with the Paleo diet, it would be the rage!!

The old song “dem bones, dem bones, dem dry bones” actually got it wrong.  They are quite moist and tasty and make an extremely tasty broth!  Below is a simple recipe from Wellness Mama that may make you day a little warmer.

Bone Broth Ingredients

  • 2 pounds (or more) of bones from a healthy source
  • 2 chicken feet for extra gelatin (optional)
  • 1 onion
  • 2 carrots
  • 2 stalks of celery
  • 2 tablespoons Apple Cider Vinegar
  • Optional: 1 bunch of parsley, 1 tablespoon or more of sea salt, 1 teaspoon peppercorns, additional herbs or spices to taste. I also add 2 cloves of garlic for the last 30 minutes of cooking.

You’ll also need a large stock pot to cook the broth in and a strainer to remove the pieces when it is done.

Enjoy the Full Snow Moon!!!

Be Still and Wait


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“When you are in doubt, be still, and wait;
when doubt no longer exists for you, then go forward with courage.
So long as mists envelop you, be still; be still until the sunlight
pours through and dispels the mists — as it surely will. Then act
with courage.” ~ Ponca Chief White Eagle


When we come to a stressful place in our lives, be it in a relationship, financial or family, the natural  thing is to react (or overreact as the case may be) and try to change the situation immediately.  This is based on the information we have at the moment, which is usually just a glimpse of the entire picture. We find ourselves saying “I don’t know what to do” ,  Well,this is the time to be still and wait!!

Do Nothing until we have all the information

Breakups and arguments are a prime example of this,  we get caught up in the heat of the moment and say things we should not.  Words that can never be taken back no matter how many times you say, I am sorry.

We burn up the phone or write scathing emails of all that you have done to me.

Waiting 24 hours for the dust to settle, emotions to calm and to review the situation will give a whole new prospective on how you perceive things and the reality of the situation.   Time to place the  real feelings where they truly belong.  Time to view it with both doors wide open to see the whole panorama of the situation.

Anger and frustration usually stem from another emotion, fear is one ie when your kids do something dangerous, fear that someone is leaving us, that we are not good enough, fear a situation will continue.  But the immediate overwhelming rush of adrenaline  blocks any logic.

Be still and wait

Often in 24 hours , it will resolve itself or at least look entirely different.

People often find that they are at a crossroads in life and feel depressed or stuck and want to do something even if it is wrong, just to make something happen.  Remember, “Don’t try to create movement because nothing is happening as you could create negative movement”   which  often leads to a more chaotic situation.  Try to give yourself time to view the entire situation from all sides.

In other words

Be still and wait!!


You may want to light a blue candle as this can have a calming effect on your mood or yellow with a twist of lemon to uplift the spirits.


Have a great and calm day

VALENTINE FUN or anytime



Here’s a fun little thing to do and use for a “lovers” VALENTINE evening or any evening.  A little chocolate, some champagne (drink of choice) and LOVERS MASSAGE OIL
Recipe for lovers massage oil
A floral, earthen, exotic, and sweet blend that appeals to male and female.
1/2 cup organic carrier oil (jojoba, olive oil, almond oil)
20 drops organic Lavender essential oil
15 drops organic Cedarwood essential oil
  2 drop organic Ylang Ylang essential oil (may use orange)
Drop all essential oils into a glass bottle, add Jojoba oil, and roll bottle between palms to blend oils. Decorate with a ribbon and pretty label if desired. Shake well before each use. Perfect for VALENTINES and don’t forget the candles.  And of course, may be used through out the year!!!!!!
Love is not just for Valentine!!!!!



About the Winter Solstice Tradition

Winter solstice, also known as Yule, is the shortest day and the longest night of the year.  It is a time of both foreboding and expectancy, but remember  the longest night leads to the reviving of the sun. It is a turning point, and allows us a rest while waiting for growth to begin again.  This is also the day before the last new moon of 2014 , a bring cycle, making it a perfect time for new beginnings we want to manifest in the new year.
Winter Solstice  is when the sun reaches its southern and northern points from the equator and seems to pause before reversing course. “Solstice” in Latin means “the sun standing still.”
In ancient times, observers watched the sun sink lower in the sky each day, and feared it would disappear completely and leave them in darkness.
Many cultures practice special rituals intended to entice the sun’s return. Bonfires and candles, with their imitative magic, help to strengthen the waning sun and ward off the spirits of darkness. These symbols live on in our modern seasonal customs: the candles of Hanukkah and Christmas are kin to the fiery rites of old, which celebrated the miracle of the earth’s renewal.
These traditions reflect our need to come together in times of extended darkness. We celebrate not only the rebirth of the sun, but the community of life on earth.
Again this Winter Solstice coincides with the New moon tomorrow, the last one of the year!!!  Think and meditate on your desires and manifestations for the coming year!!!



On December 5th we will have our last full moon of the year.  It also brings us into the last release cycle of 2014.  Time to let all the old year go.

We all have accumulated a lot of baggage during the year and it is time to release it  in this Last Release cycle of 2014.  Werther  it is an old romance that no longer is growing, an old habit, or those old clothes in the closet.

It is hard in our society to see fallow or hard times in the proper perspective.   Think of it as a time of hibernating.  Instead of our focus being on the outside world, use it as a time to clean our own cave.

Fear of letting go can block this.  Also fear of not having.  We will stay in a relationship that no longer serves our higher good.  It is time to clear the negativity out of ourselves and our relationships.

We will hang onto clutter that we know we may use again (it more than likely is so outdated).  Even the broken vase we are going to repair.  And what about the things we are going to yard sell?

Perhaps it is time to start that goodwill bag.

Times when nothing are happening are times to use to access what give you pleasure, what interests you, what is really important in life.   And what is unnecessary fluff.  And above all to see how you can clear your mind.

So on this last release cycle of 2014, Let go of the old, delete, make room for new.

As Nike would say–Just do it!!!!


Below you will find 2 simple candle exercises if you choose:



One Red Candle

One White Candle

On the day after the full moon , Light the red candle and then the white.  The red of for a higher vibration for action, the white is protection and calm.

Let them burn until out.



One green candle

One white Candle

On the day after the full moon, write on a piece of paper –Please remove all obstacles interfering with _____your desire ___________Light the green then the white

Let them burn until out

I use the glass jar candles that burn for 7 days.  I place mine on a cookie sheet or in the fireplace in case of cracking.  If you must put them out, snuff do not blow and relight asap.

The key is to put them where they are visible to remind you of your purpose.


For more ideas or concepts on clearing your life, a psychic reading with can help to inspire you!!!!


Twin Flames -what are they?


Many things have been written about the idea of twin flames.  The concept has drawn much controversy and criticism.
However, at the very core of our nature and on a deep personal level, every person has and/or will sense that magnetic pull towards an individual.
The one the for no known reason, we feel an almost magnetic pull toward, we connect with them on a very deep level.
They fill our thoughts and consciously or not, affect the actions we take.   We are drawn to them like a moth to the flame.
It is believed that at one time twin flames were one soul and at a certain time split into two and went their separate ways to gather new information and experiences.  It was to allow them to grow through different lives.  Sometime this was an agreement to guarantee they would reconnect in another life.
Even though it was so each could grow, each one searched for the other (usually without knowing) with whom to share these experiences.
This unfulfilled desire made the two souls desperately look for each other through every ascension of their lives.  
Sometime they met in an incarnation, while in others they keep seeking, always with just a little something missing.  The fragmented soul does not become complete unit it finds the other. 
Although two souls can and do live happily side by side, the togetherness of the split soul or twin flame brings something far greater.
It is believed we have only one twin soul with whom we keep sharing encounters in subsequent lives, until the full journey of human experience is completed.  Sometime the universe brings them together while sometime it keeps them apart but each union brings a higher high.
The “meeting” in this lifetime, when you meet your twin flame for the first time is a connection you make instantly without question.  It is a recognition so accurate that you do not question it.  Many things and events have brought you to this point so the moment you meet your twin flame your heart opens quickly to merge into a unified energy.  And as the two of you merge, the outside world disappears and an unforgettable bond is made.  You shall search for it years.

Although this is an unbelievable chemistry, it does not necessarily mean the two of you are ready for an immediate romance in this time frame. Hang ups and conditioning from the past lives may make the conscious mind guard itself from vulnerability.   It may take some cleansing to remove the effects of the residual from other lives.  Without the work one or both tries to fit the other into the old love patterns, and it can move from a blazing chemistry into a mellow courtship and finally an uninspiring relationship.   

When it is right, there is a sense of completeness that is beyond description and the twin flames come closer and closer with each experience shared with one another.  They learn more about themselves than they would from another person,  This is the sign of having found your twin flame and can only be felt once the twins reach the stage of harmony with each other.  Again it takes work.
Twin flames can be of the same sex, they may share a huge age difference and they will meet under the strangest of circumstances.  But they will fit together.
Soulmate and twin flame are often confused with each other.  The one difference is a soulmates have agreed to reincarnate to help each other learn from each other and to act as guides,  This pattern can continue or it can end in one lifetime,  There are usually more than one.  However, thee exists only one twin flame for you in your entire journey of human existences.
“Only this one soul is going to be your vice and you, it’s versa”
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Negative energy- relationships

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Negative energy continues to live and breathe daily in all walks of life.

It is hard to get away from however, we can choose to absorb it or release it.  Clear ourselves of it, breath deep and let it go.

Complaining, listening to complaints (not problems) anger, frustration, etc. only perpetuates the negative energy.  Dark cannot live in light.   And complaining about your relationship is a huge magnet for a negative virus.

This is true of relationship of all sorts, love work, children and complaining about ourselves.  Now we all know venting for a bit is natural so realize I am talking about the constant negativity where we are not looking for a solution but the “if only they would” , “I told him==”  “he just doesn’t get it”  do you?.

In a relationship one of the things we are prone to do is to complain about our mates to our friends, strangers, anyone that listens.  Do we feel this makes us look better?  Kind of a martyr?  If it is that bad==leave.

But many complaints are out of habit and sometime we even feel, humor.   It is natural but we need to learn when it is founded, fun, or perpetuating more unrest and unhappiness in the relationship itself.  Choosing a “negative” and giving it so much energy allows it to grow and fester.  And also when it is fear based.

How many  times do we ever sit and tell our friends over a glass of wine or coffee, all the good things about our partner?  Try it!  You will be amazed at how dumbfounded people will be but above all, you will be astounded at how many good things there are about them!!  And you.

If by chance not, then is it time to review the relationship.

One of the biggest causes of negative energy is fear.  Fear and negative energy grow in your thoughts and create an anger.    Anger is a result of a feeling–shame, fear, to name a few.  It is said–the higher the anger, the lower the self-esteem.     Are we belittling to try to make us seem better?  Do we not feel we deserve a good person?   Are we afraid we must answer up?  Our own lives should be filled with other things to talk about.

When we are in a relationship, it is important to remember to praise both to them and to others.  You will find it makes you feel better, it hopefully makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them.  I repeat, it makes you want to be better to bring out the best in them.  Not badger, complain, whine,  if there is an issue, address it as it comes and be done with it.   Start with “I”  ie –when this happens “I” feel yada yada.

Now I am not saying be a doormat, all relationship have problems.  And some just aren’t meant to be or continue.  But a relationship is work, respect, growth.  Not everyone is right for us but may be for someone else.  It is not winning or failing, it is about learning and loving.  Do not fear “not having” it breeds desperation, control, and do not fear giving a compliment without expecting one in return.  Truly “give” it.

Times have changed with all the social media , I am constantly told –I talked to someone on-line, is he the one? cause if not I do not want to waste my time…….gee I don’t know, sounds like you have already kicked off the “hello” expecting (with a fear of) it failing.   Doesn’t say much for your confidence.  Do you really want to start with the fear of failing? or look at it as a new opportunity?  Ask what can we do to enhance each others lives?

Let’s not set our partners and ourselves up to fail from the very beginning.  Let’s put little baby steps in front of both of us to step up to.  Little goals to work on along the way, not let it build because of our fear to speak.   Or sacrifice our self-esteem and feelings for fear of not having someone.   This builds resentment and anger and with that all the negativity breeds.


So for one day, whenever you talk about your person–say only the good things about them.  You will both feel better and the light will shine.




There is a movie called the “Time Traveler”  it is a father and son who can travel back in time.  At the end when the father is dying he tells the son the secret to a positive attitude—-live your day, then at night go back to morning and relive it with a different attitude, you can see how it changes all around you.”  Soon you will learn to not let little things bother you  or to look at them with a different attitude.–


As an exercise, with your partner——sit across from them holding hands,  do not talk.  Just look at each other for 3 to 5 min.  and think of all the things you liked about each other in the beginning.   The times you laughed the hardest.   Then when done write some of them down and read them to each other.  It is amazing what we forget when we get caught up in the everyday chaos of life.


To remove the fear of “not having” be it partner, money or chocolate

In the release cycle of the moon–full to new


Light a white candle and then a red candle and give it all your fear